Parenting Series: Improving the Relationship with Your Son – The Power of Positive Words

Mar 20, 2013 | Parenting

by contributing writer Josh Kissee of

You have more than got this, and I love you. Be brave!” said the Father to his son just before he stepped into the batters box at the baseball game. He could hear his dad in the background cheering for him as the pressure rushed through his veins and weakness started to overtake his legs. Just then, the young 6-year boy takes a swing at his first slow-pitch baseball game.

“Strike!” said the umpire as he felt even more pressure.positive word image

The next pitch delivers what appeared to be a lightning fast 100 mile per hour ball.

“Strike two!” said the umpire as the boy felt gripped with fear. “You can do this,” said his father in the background. Quipped with momentary bravery, the young boy took a third swing and didn’t even come close to the ball.

“Strike three, you’re out!” The umpire flexed his arms as he motioned the strike symbol. The young, six-year-old boy felt a sense of shame, humiliation, and disappointment all at once. He began telling himself a dozen reasons why he should not continue on playing baseball. Why he didn’t have what it takes. Just then, a voice from behind the dugout between the rusty chain-link fence startled his thoughts and shook him on the inside.

“Son,” said his father.

“You were very brave just then. Those were some fast balls. Just keep being brave and don’t give up. I love you, and I’m very proud of you.”

All feelings of shame, disappointment, and thoughts of failure seemed to flee. The young boy felt an enormous sense of relief that he knew his father believed in him.

They love it. They need it. Its free. 

So this is all well and good. Sounds like I have it all under control. Don’t be mislead. I’m just onto a really good thing that I know works. Everyone knows that if you find something that works, you keep doing it. If you find success, you keep doing the things that make you successful. This is one of those things.

Schedule it and make it happen!

15 Affirming Phrases

  1. You did a great job at…
  2. I believe in you…
  3. Let’s work on it together, so we can bust it out!
  4. I can see you have worked really hard. Thank you!
  5. I’m so glad you are my son.
  6. Son, you are good at…
  7. You used good judgement to solve that problem.
  8. I knew you could do it!
  9. What do you think the problem is?
  10. Let’s try teamwork.
  11. Do you have any ideas on how to solve this?
  12. I understand what you mean. How would you do it then?
  13. Let’s try this again, can you show me your way of doing it?
  14. Would you like to hear my idea?
  15. That might work. Let’s try it and see.

In our next post, we will review the last in our four-part series, The Power of Positive Touch.

What have been the best phrases for remaining positive with your son? Any tips to share with the community?


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  1. Island Traveler

    Priceless advices. Tips that creates positive bond to last a lifetime and more. Thanks.

  2. Janette

    Great post…and of course having five boys and having seen them all strike out, I totally get the illustration…thanks for encouraging us to encourage with our words…it is something I always need to be reminded of

  3. Lynette

    I wish I was better at this. It’s too easy to nag or pick at the faults. Im trying to talk about how I KNOW they are good boys, even when they have bad days (hitting each other in school), and talk about better ways to react when things happen that we don’t like. Thanks for the reminder!

    • Brenda L. Yoder

      You’re not the only one, Lynette. When I hear my boys snapping back at me, I know something’s out of balance, that they may be hearing more critical statements than positive ones. It’s always good to have reminders that make a difference in their world.

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