Chinos, High Heels, Cougars, and Menopause

Aug 5, 2010 | Faith

Today my daughter and I went shopping.  My goal – “elementary” pants….i.e….chinos comfortable to wear during my internship as an elementary school counselor.  My wardrobe presently consists of high school teacher pants, of which I need to wear heels with, and are trendy and fun.

In trying on clothes, I snuck in some denim leggings and a cute dress to wear over it.

I looked in the mirror with a stark reality: leggings on me don’t look the same as they did in my twenties, and while I could wear them, they presented me in the frame of a cougar.

Not Cool.
This is not an elementary image I was looking for.

Then I tried on some other clothes and somewhere in the conversation, my daughter said, Mom, maybe it’s because of menopause. 

This, from the daughter I am about to drop off as a college freshman year.

And this is life at Fortysomething.  

Somewhere in between chinos, high heels, cougars, and menopause.



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  1. wear with chinos

    Love your post, thanks for taking time to post this.

  2. mangiabella

    thanks for the smiles today – you are too precious

  3. A multi-dimensional life

    So cute! :)I just sent an e-mail to a friend about aging. It's unfortunate that reality has to sting a bit, but it's also nice to know that we can find the humor in facing what we can't deny! My friend said "since I'm getting older, I'm not sure I can find this funny anymore." Although we are the same age, I guess I just feel that a sense of humor is the true fountain of youth (regardless of what the mirror might say)~~ Thanks for the grins today! 🙂

  4. Janette@Janette's Sage

    Love this…because this mom of six and touching on 50 doesn't want to look like my 19 year old daughter…although my son a waiter says the "cougars" tip really well….LOLBut then again, my body wouldn't fit into that style anyway…just stopped by and enjoyed!!

  5. Anonymous

    Brenda,Thanks for the chuckle or should I thank Kaylee!Pam Miller

  6. pam miller

    Brenda,Thanks for the chuckle, or should I thank Kaylee!

  7. Justacogitating

    Loved the post! I've found that my feelings about clothes and hair fluctuate with my moods these days: The shirt I loved yesterday suddenly feels "old" and the short haircut I cried over suddenly seems cool. Or vice versa.I found myself explaining (at the Mishler reunion no less) the difference between the slang terms "puma" "cougar" and "mountain lion." I suppose that now that I'm 40, if I date a younger man, I'm officially a cougar. Eh, I don't have a problem with that ;

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