7 Steps to Deal with Anger

Feb 1, 2021 | Encouragement, Life

Anger is an emotion I’ve struggled with over my lifetime. 7 Steps to deal with anger

As a child, I got angry when I didn’t feel heard, when I felt no one took me seriously, or when my feelings weren’t validated.

As the youngest, the way I got my voice heard was when I yelled or said outrageous things that exploded from inside.

When I reached adolescence, my anger and voicelessness went inside. I learned to silence myself by disappearing, either starving or stuffing my emotions through an eating disorder.

As an adult, I’ve learned self-control with anger, though it’s not easy at times.

How do you control anger? How do you deal with it so that it doesn’t get the best of you ? Here are seven ways to work at anger.

1. Communicate your thoughts, feelings or frustrations before the situation or your anger escalates. When you’re proactive to talk calmly to the person you’re frustrated, hurt, or upset with before anger sets in, you diffuse the situation and get your voice heard without your tongue being out of control.

2. Release the anger that’s built up in your body through activity. Punch a pillow, run, exercise, or do something physical that takes the negative energy out of your body and releases it in a healthy way.

3. Focus on something outside of the situation to take your mind off of the circumstances and to diffuse angry feelings. Take a walk, listen to music, do something with your hands. Do something that focuses your energy on positive things, not the source of your anger.

4. Talk it out with a friend, counselor, or trusted person in your life. Release your anger with safe and healthy people who won’t ramp up or fuel your anger.

5. Write out how you feel. Draw or make music. Get the words and feelings out creatively.

6. Pray, asking God to calm your anger and replace it with His peace that passes all understanding in Christ Jesus.

7. Change what you can about the situation. If your anger is systemic or ongoing, consider how you can remove yourself from the situation or source of the anger. Also consider what you need to change in the situation or relationship if it’s applicable.

Dear Father, teach me how to control anger that gets the best of me. Help me to let you control my tongue instead of me. Turn my eyes to you before I speak. Be the controller of my emotions, Holy Spirit. Amen. 


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