Life & Faith Beyond the Storybook Image with Speaker & Writer Brenda L. Yoder
Anger is an emotion I’ve struggled with over my lifetime. Do you ever struggle with anger?
As a child, I got angry when I didn’t feel heard, when I felt no one took me seriously or when my feelings weren’t validated. As the youngest, the way I got my voice heard was when I yelled or said outrageous things that exploded from inside.
When I reached adolescence, my anger and voicelessness went inside. I learned to silence myself by disappearing, either starving or stuffing my emotions through an eating disorder.
As an adult, I’ve learned self-control with anger, though it’s not easy at times.
How do you control anger? How do you deal with it so that it doesn’t get the best of you ? Here are seven ways to work at anger.Read More
God’s word never ceases to bring new lessons. Lessons hidden in pages and lives of others from whom we can learn.
I’ve been teaching and learning about mothers in scripture this year. Each month, other moms come to my home and we study the “Messed Up Moms” of the Bible. One impacting me is Hannah.
In the pages of 1 Samuel 1-3, we see a woman whose security is completely in God and her relationship with Him. On the surface you see a woman who’s as messed up as you and I are. She’s gossiped about and tormented by her husband’s other wife. She’s disgraced and heartbroken, unable to bear children. She’s so depressed she can’t eat. Her pastor misjudges her character and thinks she’s drunk.
Can you relate? I can.Read More
This year, I celebrated my 25th wedding anniversary with my high school sweetheart. We’ve been romancing for thirty-one years this month. We’ve been through a lot, particularly in parenting, finding that parenting teens and tween are the roughest years in marriage.
So here are 25 tips on marriage and parenting I’ve learned in twenty-five years of marriage.
1. Marriage is hard work, so work at it.
2. Parenting is hard work, so work at it, too.
3. Take family vacations for memories and laughter.
4. Let go of expectations on family vacations.
5. Build other things into your family life other than kids’ sports and activities.
6. Don’t let your children take the important place your spouse should have.
7. Your spouse will be with you long after your children are gone, so make that relationship a priority.
8. Don’t let your kids pit you against one another.
9. Parent together. (Read the rest here at 10 to 20 Parenting).Read More
There’s revival in northern Indiana, and a dark cloud is looming as the Holy Spirit is rising.
It’s a cloud the enemy is stirring, one that man and religion are embracing.
In my community, churches are coming together in unity. Walls are falling down. People and pastors are crossing denominational lines to pray, worship, and have communion together.
But not everyone’s coming to the table. People are questioning Revive Indiana, pulling back from one another and putting their walls up higher. Evidence of the dark side, that our struggle isn’t against flesh and blood, but against rulers, authorities, the powers of this dark world and against heavenly forces in the spiritual realm (Ephesians 6:12).
Here are eleven truths about the dark side of revival.
1. Speaking truth will bring persecution. The enemy really enjoys this.
2. People are afraid of the Holy Spirit. The Holy Spirit is working in our community. It has nothing to do with being a certain kind of church. People aren’t falling on the floor, but are praying, worshiping and sharing together. The Spirit is changing hearts, bringing peace and unity to those open to His moving. People are coming to a personal relationship with Jesus Christ.
It’s authentic and real. And people are scared.Read More
There’s something happening in Northern Indiana that’s unprecedented. Revival is happening and is transforming the youth.
I live in Shipshewana, Indiana. The heart of Amish & Mennonite Country. We are a hard-working rural community, steeped in tradition, religion, family and basketball. It’s a place where everyone knows your name and kids are identified by who their parents or grandparents are.Read More
There’s revival in our area, one that’s gaining national attention. 32oo people gather for a weeknight event. 52 days of prayer, community outreach, and sharing the gospel. 600 kids going into the community on a school day that’s excused by public high schools.
We’ve been involved. Lots to say, so here are ten things I’ve learned from revival.
1. Revival means the church has to be revived – which implies it’s dead.
2. Revival starts in your own heart.
3. Humility brings healing.
4. When you expect God to work, He will.
5. Bold prayers in His will for His glory brings unexpected outcomes.
6. The Holy Spirit desires to work when you open the door and allow Him to work.Read More
In the last couple of weeks, two friends disclosed how their daughters, a junior in high school and a freshman in college, have experienced various forms of teen dating violence. Verbal abuse, stalking, and controlling behavior. For one girl, the stalking and threats began in seventh grade.
Please read this post even if you don’t think it pertains to you. It will more than likely involve someone you know at some point in time – a daughter, a sister, a niece, a friend’s child or your grandchild.
Boundaries are important.
God is the author of boundaries. He creates them for our protection. As you grow in independence and develop relationships, it’s important you create healthy boundaries with people. Here are a few truths about boundaries.
The first article on raising kids in an age of entitlement identified that your kids “absorb” privilege because it permeates their generation. Being a role model and teaching kids your values about work, finances, and privilege rests on those of us who are parenting. When I polled parents about how they’re teaching values to teens in today’s privileged culture, here are suggestions from seasoned parents: