Moms, do you feel like you fall short in trying to do it all? You’re not alone. Brenda’s bringing a day retreat for moms to Shipshewana, IN, on Saturday, March 22. The retreat is filled with practical tips for balancing a busy life, plus spiritual and faith-based...Read More
Life & Faith Beyond the Storybook Image with Speaker & Writer Brenda L. Yoder
The sun is beautiful today, reflecting it’s glory off the snow-covered ground that’s been our view for the last three months. For most of the cold-belt, it’s been the winter of all winters. Over 100 inches of snow in our area. The winter that’ll never end.
Despite the single degree weather this week, today it’s above freezing. Standing in my driveway, I hear water running down our eaves-spouts. Evidence of a spring thaw slowly beginning.
Do you need a spring thaw? More than just the one that melts the snow on your porch, yard, and driveway?
Where does life’s winter grip you? Is it a relationship, a dead-end job, a season of life, a low-grade depression that just won’t shake? There are things in life that grip you, leaving you cold and trapped like the relentless winter of debilitating storms.Read More
You have to practice what you preach, so the saying goes. So I’ve been practicing what I preach – that’s why I’ve been absent from the blog the last two weeks. Three weeks from today, I’ll be teaching on Balance, Busyness and Not Doing It All. Personal balance requires doing what’s most important at the time and not trying to do everything when there’s too much to do. So I’d be lying to you if I had tried to do everything that’s been packed into my life the last two weeks.
There are times and seasons that demand more of our time. Certain weeks, we have to let some things go. On top of all of these things, I haven’t posted here. I told myself none of you were waiting breathlessly for my next post. But my kids needed their mom to be present with them. I needed to save money by cooking from scratch rather than buying ready-made food that would have made life easier. I had to say no to people and opportunities because I wasn’t the only who could meet their needs. I can’t do it all, and neither should you.Read More
A reader asked if I’d address the issue of singles in the church and how God’s people can be more inclusive. Valentine’s Day is a great time to talk about the unwritten rules of church life and the messages we tell our each other about marriage, singleness and acceptability.
My daughter was introduced to the unwritten rules as a college coed attending the largest Christian university in the country. By the end of her sophomore year, she observed the unspoken expectation was that a girl was to get her MRS degree by time she graduated. My heart sank because she was introduced to female socialization in the body of Christ.
There’s an unwritten rule that if you’re not married or seriously dating someone, you’re not quite whole, that your life doesn’t begin until you’ve found “the one.“Read More
I am sometimes guilty of listening with one ear. Someone is talking and I try to steal a glance at the mail on the counter. Someone is telling a long story and I look like I’m listening, but I’m really thinking about what to make for dinner. Chicken? No we just had chicken. Who hasn’t tried to keyboard quietly while listening to someone else on the phone?
We’re all guilty.
The International Listening Association in River Falls, Wis. (did you know there was such a group?) says we spend almost half of our time listening, but we are preoccupied or forgetful about 75 percent of the time.
Listening to people requires giving my full attention, good eye contact (when possible) and verbal encouragement. “Oh.” “Uh-hu.” “Then what?”
I know the skills it takes to listen to people, but how do I listen to God? There’s no eye contact. He certainly doesn’t need verbal encouragement. So how do we listen?Read More
Jill Hart is a writer, speaker and coach, showing others how to follow the calling God has placed on their lives. She is the author of the new devotional book, Do Life Different. I’m excited to offer her book as a give away at the upcoming retreat for moms on March 22 (come join us, find out information here). She’s also giving away an e-version of her new book to one of you! Read on for details.
There have come times in my life when I have found myself weary, exhausted to the point of wanting to throw in the towel. To give up my business and volunteer work and just curl up in a ball and sleep for a week. Or a month.
Today I’m making fifteen sandwiches and lunch bags for my favorite sports team this season, and it’s not for a Superbowl party. I’m a basketball mom.
I’m a tennis mom, theater mom, a choir mom, a cross-country mom, a youth group mom and a tennis mom. I’ve also been a volleyball mom, a band mom, piano-lesson mom, a gymnastics mom, a 4-H mom, a volunteer mom, a show-choir mom, an honor-society mom, a science-fair and a camp mom.
I’ve been a tired mom. Are you a tired mom?
As I speak and minister to moms and women through out country, there’s a common theme - moms are busy, trying to do it all and are exhausted. Can I get an “Amen!”Read More
There are times God’s goodness is simple. And real. And overwhelming.
This morning I woke up in my bed at a place called home. A place I take for granted.
“Thank God if your kids are in your beds each night“ I told women I spoke to this weekend. A woman looked puzzled. “Really, you never know when that may not be possible.” Two families I know lost children this year. Two of my own have left our nest. Be thankful.
“Your husband’s not perfect. But if he’s a good man, thank God for him.“ Tears filled women’s eyes, my own included. How critical we are about our husband’s faults. I’m guilty. What a skewed perspective we can have. If your child has a father who’s good at heart, be thankful.
“Let it go.” I said about things we stress over. The perfect body. The perfect home.Read More
I was cupbearer to the king. Nehemiah 1:11
Six simple, yet powerful words.
Nehemiah was cupbearer to the most powerful man in Persia. Day after day he silently took his position, bringing a cup to the king. His role was simple.
The king may not have even known his name. One day, the King noticed his face. Nehemiah was sad. The king asked him why he was downcast and Nehemiah told him about his city lying in ruins. In the end, the king allowed Nehemiah to return to his city with protection and provisions to rebuild the wall of the city of God. He eventually made Nehemiah governor over the area.
He was cupbearer to the King. Who are you a cupbearer to?Read More
“They begged him to let them touch even the edge of his cloak, and all who touched him were healed.” Mark 6:56
What do think of when you hear the word emotional healing? Is it something you long for?
When I think of healing, I think of freedom from pain.
Where do you run when needing relief from pain? For years I ran to an eating disorder, to people and their approval, to my rights and control instead of running to the Healer. He was standing right there, but I didn’t reach out.
Am I the only one who’s stood beside the Healer, plagued with hurt, crying , “Lord, help me!” yet didn’t get relief? Have you ever cried out, scraped at your sores and then wondered why God didn’t help you?Read More
That woman was a master at balancing life – was helpmate to her husband and a nurturing mom. She was an organized, fastidious homemaker and an involved leader at church. By thirty, I met these goals. When my fourth child came along, I couldn’t keep up. My patience was short and my creativity gone. My house was clean, but lunch money and permission-slip forms sent me into panic-mode. I was involved and busy at church but served with a grumpy, defeated spirit.
Can you identify?Read More